Example of a Ceremony
August 5, 2011
OPENING WORDS OF THE OFFICIANT
The wedding will begin by welcoming your guests.
AN OPENING PRAYER OR READING
This will generally set the tone of your wedding. It could be serious, humorous, sentimental, or elegant. Typically, it says something about love, relationships, or marriages.
DEFINITION OF MARRIAGE
Here the officiant says some words about marriage in general. He or she will most likely talk about the seriousness of the solemn vow you are about to make, and the new life together you are creating.
EXCHANGE OF RINGS OR GIFTS
The bride and groom say something like “I (name) give you (name) this ring as an eternal
LIGHTING OF UNITY CANDLE OR OTHER UNITY CEREMONY SUCH AS SAND CEREMONY
Many couples are choosing to add a unity ceremony. They may choose to do this in silence, with music playing or they may create vows to say about the joining of their families
This could be a poem, a prayer, or a sanctioning of the marriage. It is generally the “final thoughts” of the officiant.
DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE
The officiant typically says something akin to “By the power vested in me by the State of _______, I now pronounce you husband and wife” or for same-sex couples, “I now pronounce you married.” This is followed by the first kiss of the newly married couple. The officiant traditionally says, “You may now kiss the bride”. Modern couples often find it strange for someone else to be giving permission to kiss a grown woman. So now, either the couple kiss immediately after the declaration of marriage or the officiant says something like “you may now kiss each other.”
INTRODUCTION OF NEWLYWEDS
The officiant says “I present to you Mr. and Mrs. ________” if they are changing their names, or “I present to you the newly married couple, Jane and John” if they are not. The guests stand.